When we know a family that is grieving we often want to help but feel paralyzed not knowing what to do. While trained therapists can provide insight into how to help grieving families, the experts on how to help are the grieving families themselves. Today’s post is from one such family, and what they have found to be things that people can do that actually helps.
Nanette Klinect lost her amazing daughter Katie in a bike accident in April of 2014. She graciously agreed to share this list of ideas of things people did for her family, things she wished people had done and some suggestions from a support group for grieving parents that she is a part of. We hope that this list will aid you feeling more equipped to actually help when you know a family in crisis. Continue reading
Group counseling can often provide insights that help you get to the next level in your individual counseling. This fall I will be starting a counseling group for women based on Stasi Eldredge’s book Becoming Myself. Together we will work through questions of identity, purpose, self-acceptance, and hope. This is one of my favorite books to use in individual counseling and it captures so well the experience and wrestlings that come with being a woman. Check out the flyer below for more information about the group and how to sign up. Continue reading
One month ago today one of my most beloved mentors passed away. Though I never had the honor of meeting her in person, Elisabeth Elliot was an amazing woman of faith and a mentor to thousands of women through her wonderful books. Her many books and her life’s testimony have been pivotal in the shaping of my life. If you are unfamiliar with her and her writings I highly recommend reading one or two (or ten) of her books in addition to this sample of her writing included in this post.
It is hard to narrow down what to share of her wisdom in one little post, but this devotion from her book “Keep a Quiet Heart” about how to have a quiet time really resonated with me when I read it recently. One of the best practices for self-care I have found is consistent time with the Lord in prayer and resting with Him. Mrs. Elliot captures so simply the practical practices of a quiet time and communicates so much depth in so few words. This one little devotion so perfectly captures everything so many readers love about her writing. Continue reading
You’re done, you finally have that degree in hand…and now what? Maybe like most millennials you are now finding that the degree you worked so hard for has given you very few job opportunities, or that the job you did find makes you feel empty and longing to do what you really want to do.
Either way, welcome to a quarter-life crisis. If you need any more evidence of your crisis state this buzz feed list is rather convincing. Continue reading
This week I wrote a guest blog post for So Worth Loving, an Atlanta lifestyle brand that passionately communicates that every person is worthy of love.
Check out the post on their site.
Forgiveness can be a touchy subject. We hate being told to forgive, we struggle to forgive those who have wronged us, we ache when others withhold forgiveness from us; ultimately many of us are walking around with many misconceptions about forgiveness and what it means to forgive someone. In counseling and inner healing ministry I have seen over and over how forgiveness is often the key to break through in healing. Today’s post explores what it means to forgive and how we can begin to walk in freedom. Continue reading
For almost as long as we have been friends I knew that you would likely pass away before me, but it never had sunk in as reality that one day I’d have to say goodbye.
Thalassemia is a pretty rough disease, you’d be fortunate to make it to your teens, it would be a miracle for you to make it to your twenties. But you did. It was a rough road along the way, lots of scares, lots of medical miracles. You seemed invincible. Like it didn’t matter what the doctors ever said the odds were, they didn’t know you. They didn’t know that you were super woman. Continue reading
What comes to mind when you hear the words “boyfriend” or “Daddy”? Do fond memories come to mind about good times? Maybe some bad memories too from a relationship gone sour or a dad that wasn’t around? Regardless of the emotion felt, there is something about those words that brings certain feelings and memories to mind. To read the rest of this guest post I wrote for Serenity’s Steps, check out their blog.
When we were nineteen my friend started having memories, flash backs, of her childhood. These memories were not very welcome as they brought with them pain, confusion, and shame. All of which were already there, but didn’t have a name. As she began to piece together these memories with what she already knew of her childhood, she began to realize and remember that she had been repeatedly molested around the time she was six years old. She was brave enough to trust her story to me and together we started figuring out how to help her heal. How to set her free from that shame. And how to integrate this newly remembered reality into her story.
Current statistics say that 1 in 4 women in the US have experienced sexual abuse and 75-95% of women coming out of commercial sexual exploitation have experienced sexual abuse prior to their exploitation. The likelihood that sexual abuse is part of her story for you or for a woman you call friend is sadly very high. So what do you do when a friend confides in you that they have been abused? What do you do if you yourself have been abused? Continue reading
By now I’m sure many of you reading this are familiar with this clip…go ahead and watch it…
While what the tv host says here is funny in Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt it’s a sadly true reality about most of the women you and I know, and many of the women we are ourselves. We are afraid of appearing rude. And what we really are saying most of the time when we do things to avoid appearing rude is we apologize for having emotions. We apologize for feeling uncomfortable about something, feeling unsafe, feeling that our needs aren’t getting met, feeling like we are getting trampled by someone else’s emotions. But somehow being rude seems far worse than being emotional. And so we hide our emotions. We hide our fears. We minimize our needs to be heard, to be loved, to be respected. And while most of us do not end up as an Indiana Mole Woman, we do end up hurt. We end up in dead end relationships, we end up broken hearted and feeling like there is no one that would actually care to take the time for us to heal. Continue reading